Apart from being the taxi service to and from sports practices and events, parents play a more pivotal role than they think. Remember what a child hears from parents and authority figures becomes their belief system, so it is important that we are conscious of how we react. If you have played team sports you may
remember what it was like to be at a defining moment in a game where the win rested on the actions on one player. If they came through everybody hailed them the hero and if they didn’t the reaction was often quite the opposite and harsh Actually devastating for the person who was perceived as letting the team down.
Fortunately, as sports in school has evolved a huge focus has been placed on mindset and EQ (Emotional Quotient) where children are taught that it is more important to have a winning attitude than to win at all costs. Displaying good sportsmanship ensures that a child will always give off their best despite the outcome and this unveils the strength of a child’s character. Parents sometimes tend to become too emotionally involved and vested in the games their children play and some display aggression, rudeness, become abusive towards the players or referees and just poor behaviour. This puts undue stress on the children who in turn become embarrassed,
fearful and stressed out which in turn affects their performance. As parents we should encourage our children to participate with excellence, whether they play on
the 1 st team, B team or E Team so that when they find themselves in the game of life (which does not play fair) they will be able to hold their own. Playing for a school team involves sacrifice, discipline, spending time on the bench, high moments and disappointments and it is important for them to positively process the emotions associated with this. This is where we can be their biggest supporters and anchor their self-belief A child who has unconditional support and love will go on to achieve great things in life on and off the sports field.
By Nicole Kalicharan, Savuka Coaching
Life, Image & Study Skills Coach